Being in a relationship is an amazing thing if you have found the right person. However if they are not the one for you, you will slowly see yourself changing. So how do you know if your with the right person? We obviously all have different views on this. To me the right person for you brings out the best in you always. They will be your support system, your shoulder to cry on, lover,fighter,provider. Now don't get me wrong I am 100% independent but we all crave that security and intimacy to make us feel whole. My past relationships had some of these qualities but not all and something always felt off, was it just me or did they feel it to? How can you be all these things for someone if you don't feel the same way towards them? You can't force the heart to do anything the heart wants what it wants. The most important aspect in all of this is self love! If you do not love yourself you cannot love someone else as you should.
After my last relationship of 9 years I walked away miserable, lonely,frustrated,stressed to just name a few. Where do I go from here? Where do I start? I asked myself these questions daily until I started to understand what I needed to do. I needed to find "Jessica" again. Where was she after all these years? She was struggling daily running a business, trying to act like she was happy and all was okay while deep down inside she hated herself. I felt so empty inside. Blaming myself daily saying maybe I should have done something different. F*$@ that, I did all I could and always gave him 100% of me always. I spent plenty of late nights reading self love articles and books to bring "Jessica" back. Once I started to slowly understand it wasn't me the cloud slowly started to pull away. I surrounded myself with my amazing family and friends and focused on me and I started to feel amazing. It's been about 6 months now and I have never been happier. When I wake up in the morning I am happy to be alive! I can't believe I was so blinded to see I was that unhappy. I watched this amazing movie which made me want to write this blog which was called Nappily ever after. Basically she encounters a romantic set back and begins a self love journey embracing her natural self. If your in a dead end relationship give this movie a watch and let it inspire you to be better than yesterday and to love the most important person in your life you!
You got this :)
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