"Mirrors show us what we look like, not who we are."

Looking back growing up as a teenager I was never considered a plus size. I was an active child always playing basketball or running or even bike riding with the neighborhood kids. However back then I always had low self confidence because my younger sister Jennifer was like a 0 or 2 and here I was a size 12/14. I remember just always wondering why she got to be so small and I was so "big". I don't think it really started to bother me until I was a freshman, during this time your body is already going through crazy emotions with puberty and now to through this in the mix oh boy!

I remember going school clothes shopping with my parents and her and I did not want to come out in anything as I thought my sister Jennifer is going to look better than me because she is so "small." Why didn't I look like my baby sister? Why was I not a size 2? What was wrong with me? I just remember just feeling so bad about myself and quite honestly now as an adult there was no need for it. I wish I could go back and talk to teenager Jessica and tell her she is beautiful just the way she is, that her curves someday would be accepted and considered sexy.

Now I am 36 years old, I am a successful business owner and I am the most confident I have ever been in my size 20/22 body. I love fashion and dressing my body and I never feel uncomfortable and that I don't fit in anywhere. Although I have gained weight due to pcos and hormonal imbalances I love myself. In fact I get hit on all the time! Most men nowadays want a woman with curves. So move over skinny girls it is time for us big girls to shine :) I love myself so much that my friends say I am a "selfie" queen :)

Designers are now catching on and creating amazing plus size clothing for teens and woman. We are seeing plus sizes actresses take leading roles and showing woman and girls everywhere to embrace your curves and the body god has given to you. Society and the world need to accept that not everyone is the same size.

Ladies you need to learn to love yourself and I know with how the world is it is hard for you to accept who you are and what you look like but you are beautiful just the way you are!

XOXO

Jessica

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