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So where's my happy ever after?

 I often ask myself "Where's my happy ending"?   I am the type of person whether you are family, friend or a potential partner I give you all of me good and bad.  Sometimes I often let people take advantage of me and that is one of my weaknesses for sure.  


I have always craved that fairy tale love and have never seemed to find it, or keep it, yet I have friends who have and have thrown it away for a cheap one night stand or a summer fling why? Why can't anyone just be happy when they find someone who gives them their all?   Should I sacrifice my wants and needs for what comes to me and is convenient and just settle?


Now don't get me wrong I do have a "list" of what I am looking for in a man. Some of my friends say I am crazy for having a "list", but I disagree I have worked very hard my whole life to get where I am today and wants someone who also has goals and inspirations and not living in mommy and daddy's basement. Am I wrong for this?  My list is:


They need to work

Drive

Live alone

Have a bank account

Groomed

Intellectual

Driven


So you see I am not looking for anything crazy, just someone to build and grow with. Now in this generation it is so hard to find someone to match you in order to do this. I just can't settle when my heart is telling me I deserve better than what I subjected myself to.  






I want to love someone wholeheartedly, wake up to the love of my life for the rest of my life.  Know when i have a bad day he will be there for me and we can cuddle on the couch and let me vent.  I want to wake up Sunday mornings and make him breakfast in bed and spend a lazy day together.  My heart has been broken so many times and I have been so hurt in the past I often think love is not in the cards for me or is it? 


I will admit I refuse to settle I am happy with myself and I will not settle till I find my happy ever after. ❤


XoXo

Jessica














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