Too good to be true?

 As a single woman dating in today's world the question I ask myself all the time when getting to know someone is he too good to be true? Sadly dating has changed so much and people lie so much it's hard to believe anything you hear.  So my most recent dating "experience" comes this charming guy.   So randomly sitting on the couch reading a book when my phone goes  off on facebook saying that "Bob" sent you a friend request.  So I casually look at Bob's profile and see we have so many mutual friends now my mind starts to wonder did I meet him somewhere back in the day maybe a club or a bar?  So anyways I accept it then he starts to pursue me all day by liking status and pictures.  Later on that evening my phone is going off that I have a message it's Bob he starts off so charming, saying sorry for the flood of likes today with a winky face, from there the conversation developed.  I found out he had a car,job, his own place, no kids and never been married and could carry on a conversation did I just hit the lottery?  So over the course of the next couple of days we talked day to night he was so charming and interesting there was never any dull moments.  Not going to lie I was starting to like the type of person he was and was excited to meet him.  He came up with an awesome casual first date which I loved he suggested ice cream and a ride to the beach.  So he properly asked me out I said yes and made plans to see each  other the next day.

So as I get ready for this date I am obviously nervous like anyone would be but somewhere in my gut it tells me I am going to be fine.  Bob arrives promptly at 7 pm and I get in his car.  Soon as I get in a sense of relief came over me as he had me laughing as soon as I got in.  He was very handsome had an amazing smile and that laugh and smile definitely had me swooning for sure.   The night just flew by before I knew it 3 hours had gone be it felt like 10 minutes!  So now comes the end of night  I start to worry is he gonna lean in for a kiss? Should I?  He wishes me a good night says he had a great time and he will call me when he gets home, I hurry in the house my mind races maybe he wasn't feeling me? Was I too dominate? Did I say something wrong? Why didn't he want to kiss me goodnight? Ten minutes later my phone is ringing it's him! He proceeds to tell me he had a great time he feels so comfortable with me and he wanted to definitely kiss me but was trying to be respectful.  I felt relieved and glad he felt the same way about me as I did to him

So days go by and we are still talking everyday all day and he does not mention when the next time he is going to see me is. Mind you were are learning and getting to know each other so much everyday.  I find this weird as when you first start talking/seeing someone you want to see them all the time.   He says he is just tired and stressed at work and next week everything will be back to normal.  I own a business so I get being stressed out and feeling overwhelmed so I didn't push the whole date thing.   So now another week has gone by we are video chatting,talking on the phone and texting but no plans to see each other.  I had to bring it up as soon as I do here comes the excuses.  He is still stressed from work, he is tired the thought of him getting dressed and going out after work is too much for him.  My reply is I am not worth you getting dressed for  to see me?  So from there things went south with us, I started to think is he seeing someone else,living with someone else? What is going on with him?

I slowly started to back up as he explained he is just so stressed out my reply yes I get it.  From there the conversations started to slowly fade out.  My last point of communication was we are in our 30's are we going to have a phone relationship?  He never responded back so I cut off all communication.  I hope Bob finds what he is looking for.  If Bob is reading this I hope you learn to realize if your going to be in a relationship you need to try. You seem like an amazing man and women are missing out.   I hope you work on yourself and end up happy.

So to wrap up my ranting tonight if a man wants you he will pursue you as he doesn't want another man to have you.  If you have a feeling it is to good to be true go with your gut instinct as I should have and could have saved myself a lot of time.   I believe there is someone out there for everyone and eventually when the time is right we will meet them.   ❤

Until next time xoxo Jessica